Posts Tagged ‘emotional mindfulness’

Radical Presence

So wonderful writers such as Drs. Marsha Linehan and Tara Brach, have served to coin and disseminate the term “Radical Acceptance”  to describe the view and approach of  embracing painful situations and emotional experiences as opportunities for personal growth. While I fully endorse their views, I have come to use the term Radical Presence. Perhaps it is a trivial distinction on my part. But I prefer it for a couple of reasons. The term “acceptance” […]

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Emotional Labeling

Emotional Labeling   Often, when I ask my clients how the week has been or how they are feeling, I receive a range of responses such as “shitty”, or “it sucked”, “awful”, or conversely “great”, “wonderful”, “terrific” and so on. Those response are fine, but as a therapist, my job is to help people develop a vocabulary to more discriminatively express their feeling states. This ability to recognize and label feelings is a core component […]

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Emotional Exposure Exercise

Emotional Exposure Exercise: Emotional Surfing in Action As promised, from time to time I will post examples of Integrative Mindful Exposure in practice. The principle technique of  helping my clients to understand and acquire skills in Mindful Emotional Exposure that I employ is something I call Emotional Surfing. For those not yet familiar, please refer to previous post for a review: . A middle age woman was siting across from me, weeping, visibly shaken and […]

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Louis CK on Emotional Mindfulness

  A friend of mine recently sent me this You Tube link and excited exclaimed, “When I saw this, I immediately thought of you and your book!” Louis CK, the famous comedian, appeared on Conan O’Brien. With his candid, irreverent  and self-reflective style of humor, he illustrates the concept of emotional mindfulness in a very funny but poignant manner. He states in a few minutes, pretty much everything my book attempted to portray in 200 […]

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Mental Wellness is Being Present

Mental Wellness is Being Present :  “If you are depressed, you are living in the past, if you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace you are living in the present”  — Lao Tzu So I had an epiphany when a colleague recently asked me how I would define “mental health”. All sorts of things occured to me: Leading a balanced lifestyle, ability to fluidly recognize and express feeings […]

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Mindful Caregiving 2

Mindful Caregiving 2 People in a care-giving role are likely to experience a variety of difficult feelings over the course of time. These feelings will vary as a result of their own personality, personal history, the nature of their relationship with the ill person, the degree of perceived support, and many other factors. The most important thing is to maintain a sense of openness and radical acceptance of one’s own feelings. Towards this end we […]

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Emotional Mindfulness

Emotional Mindfulness So in the last few posts, I have been offering tools and approaches to enhance present focus and mindfulness in meditation and everyday life. However, this begs the question, How is it that we have become unmindful in the first place? Why is it that “we all live a distance from ourselves”. Why is it so hard to stay present, even when the process of being “absent from the moment” produces so much […]

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Mindful Worry 2

Mindful Worry 2 So what do we do about the worry and near ceaseless anxiety provoking ruminations that plague us? We are exhorted to believe in the phrase”Don’t worry, be happy”. Yet we are offered no instructions on how to accomplish that. It is my belief that any attempt to control or engineer our emotional experience will actually contribute to continued unhappiness. So OK, then, what to do? We established in the previous post that […]

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Mindfulness and Procrastination 2

So we have seen in the previous post that procrastination is the net result of two primary principles, the tendency to conserve responses toward the end of a time interval (fixed interval effect), and avoidance of difficult emotions associated with or elicited by a given task. So right at this moment, I am procrastinating on working on my tax return for two reasons: They are not due for another month and so I can, and […]

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Mindfulness and Procrastination 1

Mindfulness and rocrastination 1 I was once interviewed by a  journalism student for a college newspaper regarding my book. He had a particular interest in how my approaches would be useful for college students with procrastination issues. The irony was that the deadline for this article was at midnight on the day of the interview. The interview took place by telephone at 10pm that evening:) Clearly his interest was personal as well as academic. At […]

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